Tag: Family

5 Handy Hints for Living Independently

Part 1: Taking a Shower Without Falling

Do you sometimes need some assistance with everyday activities? Sometimes I need a lot!  If you are living independently, or don’t want to depend on somebody to help you, I have a few ideas that might help. I have used each of these and you can decide which ones might be just the idea you need.


1. If you get unsteady or dizzy in the shower, try to orient yourself before you step in. This is as important at home as it is if you are traveling or visiting. One wall will have the knobs and faucets. If it is an unfamiliar shower, practice turning the water, volume and force until you feel it will be comfortable. If there is a stopper, make sure it is open unless you like wading in a pond with your eyes closed.

2. One wall is often where the soap dish, shampoo and other products are. In a tub, you may be using the ledge.  Make sure you put each item in a place that makes sense to you.  I have washed my hair in body wash and my body in hair conditioner so many times, I even have my favorites. What seems so logical in the light, seems OZical through shampoo eyes.

3. Check out the other walls of the shower stall. You need a good idea how far you would have to reach to feel a wall.  You might have a shower curtain or liner, a bench seat, an actual door that opens out or slides open, a double shower, or a tiny cubical. If you get disoriented or dizzy, touch a wall. Do NOT open the door to get out until you are stable. And I have gotten lost in my own shower more than once!

4. If you have fainting or falling issues, like me, the best shower device I have found is a shower seat. Even if you have a built in shower seat, place an extra towel on it so you don’t have a slippery seat when wet. My moveable shower seat is plastic and steel, and is pretty light weight. It was passed on to me and has many years’ service to go. A squirt down with bleach water, Scrubbing Bubbles, or other cleaner while the seat is in  the shower is all you need, and only as often as you clean your shower. My seat has molded handles on each side. I ordered a bed rail organizer with pockets. It was too short  for my king size bed, but works nicely on my shower seat. It even gives me a non-slippery surface to sit on, and my soap or body wash, shampoo, razor, and other items are handy.

5. If your shower is in a bathtub, several helps and hacks may add another level of security for you.  Use a shower or bath seat, if you can.  You can bathe your whole body  while you are sitting on the seat, and standing up and getting out will be much easier. At the least, put an extra towel over the front ledge to give you a seat for getting in and out, whether you can step into the tub or not.  You can try using safety bars, handles, traction strips, over-the-ledge seats–any other aids that might help. Falling in a tub or shower is painful and maybe humiliating, but getting out by yourself after you have fallen may be next to impossible.

Where do you get all these helping aids? Maybe your insurance covers the cost.  I have only bought one piece of equipment, and that was less than $20. Just ask! So many people get bath seats and such for a temporary disability. Many would love to pass things along for free. If you are on social media, let your needs be known. Stay independent as long as you can!


Den Rescue Needed!

Den Rescue Needed!

My dark den really needs your help. I’ve been looking at it for ten years, and almost nothing has changed.

  We moved into our present home ten years ago. I love it. Our previous house was so small, but this one has room for guests to have their room, for us to have small group meetings for our church, and to have larger gatherings spread out through the den, kitchen, dining room, and living room. The walls are white with a lavender undertone throughout the house. We put wood or tile laminate in the kitchen, den, hallways and bathrooms. The living room, dining room, and the three bedrooms all have light beige carpet.

The den is the usual gathering place for my husband and me, and our nearby family and friends.  We definitely want everything to be comfortable. But we would like it to be more attractive. However, hubby says no new seating, no really fancy pillows because we have two young granddaughters who often have messy hands, and he wants to wait until next May to get nice drapes. I bought a gorgeous peacock pillow from Overstock.com, but it sat one day in the den before he moved it to the living room so it wouldn’t get dirty!

The fireplace is a true architectural feature. It has a nice rounded hearth, a lovely mantle of light colored oak, then runs all the way to the ceiling.  We have a drawing of the scriptures that tell of the crucifiction of Jesus and the words form a picture of Jesus on the cross. This was done by our son Kevin, and it’s not going anywhere.  Right now I have a set of Chinese vases and urns given to me by my sister Sue on the mantel. I will probably have a big ceramic nativity scene there for Christmas.

So my situation is this: I can’t change much in my husband’s favorite room, but I really want something to class up the joint. I hope you laughed, because I did. I promised not to spent more than $40. I really would like your input.  (And I am a novice blogger, and inserting photos still has me flummoxed.) Please feel free to be creative, but be gentle in your criticism.

Silk flowers? Silk ficus trees?  Cat tails or peacock feathers?  More or graphic pillows? A new husband?

Dark blue-gray upholstery; mixed wood stains on floor and furniture; reddish mixed-brick fireplace from hearth to 14' ceiling.
Dark blue-gray upholstery; mixed wood stains on floor and furniture; reddish mixed-brick fireplace from hearth to 14′ ceiling.
We are thrilled with our fireplace, from hearth to ceiling.
We are thrilled with our fireplace, from hearth to ceiling.